I’m acutely aware of my burnout state. Are you? What’s the last thing you do at night? Kiss your significant other (including pets) or put down your technological device?
I play Sudoko. It clears my mind from everything else that goes through my head before going to bed. And I have A LOT that goes through my head.
My husband recently sent me an article on burnout and I found it poignant enough to discuss it with you, my colleague, to ensure that you’re not burned out. You may want to read it first before reading my synopsis – you’ll need a solid 15-20 minutes to read it, digest and come back to this article. http://www.elle.com/life-love/society-career/burnout-essay
Or you can read my synopsis here if you don’t have that type of time free (sign #1 that you may be on the burnout track)
“Burnout happens when you’ve been experiencing chronic stress for so long that your body and your emotional system have begun to shut down and are operating in survival mode,”
Do you work morning, day and night? Do you offer your clients that they can call you anytime of day or night and no matter what you’re doing, you’ll stop and answer their call? At a meetup group that I co-run, there were two people there that said that they always answer their phone and are always there for their clients. Really!? Sorry – I don’t answer my phone all the time. If I’m volunteering at the school and I’m deep into a conversation about who is going to wash the band uniforms this week, no, I won’t answer. It’s rude to the person with whom I’m speaking.
We are a society of immediacy. I find it sad that stores have to make signs that say ‘please be courteous – no cell phone use’ in the cashier line and restrooms. Yes, I’ve been in ladies room where a woman was on the toilet and her phone at the same time. Do I try to pee quietly? Do I leave the flush for the next person..I don’t want to be rude to her…
“learning to say no is an important part of professional growth”
I read a lot of marketing books and I agree. Maybe not when I was starting my freelance business, because I was still growing in skill and client base. I have learned after four years (time flies) not to barter. Barter doesn’t put electricity in my car 😉 and it won’t put gas in your car either. Products for services is different – if you have extra stock and need a service, there are barter services out there that can help you get what you need when resources are low (or perhaps when they’re too high/in surplus). IMHO
The “big guys” say that you need to be focused on your purpose and goals. If what you are doing does not fulfill your goals, you are heading in the wrong direction.
“the Internet has essentially become the worldwide Hotel California for anyone with a connection”
Yup – here I am in San Diego, CA on a girls’ week with Mom and I’m working…I can check out but I can never leave. In order to get through this ‘check out’ process, I give myself a finite amount of time to work every day. And I prioritize.
The basic premise of the article is to find your ‘rhythm’. What makes you tick. What makes excited to get out of bed in the morning (or afternoon, or evening)?
And despite people telling me that it’s not “safe” to go for a walk with my dog 3 times a day without my phone…I’m still going to do it because it’s part of my rhythm. So is going to church every Sunday and working out with my husband. I don’t feel complete without those items (and more, but that’s personal).